Esther Grabowski
3/5
This is my review of Compton Care. Out of loving remembrance for my mum I'll be honest and respectful.
Compton Care obviously excels at many things in regards to how well it functions, the quality of the building itself, the professionalism of most of the staff, the aesthetic and mostly calm environment, the beautiful architecture and landscaping, but there were some things that bothered me a little and I feel could be improved.
Some of the good:
• Hot drink facilities
• Family can also order meals onsite
• There are therapy dogs that visit patients, which is wonderful and interactive
Why I removed two stars:
• Transparency. The dying process can be complex and distressing, especially if you don't know what's happening or why certain medications are administered. You're not told what the side effects are. You're not told, unless you ask, what the signs of dying are so that you're prepared. I got most of my knowledge from Google and the two nurses who did take time to speak to us family members. My mum was admitted perfectly mentally sound and communicative, but due to her pain had to be on high levels of pain relief, ended up confused and distressed and then had to be sedated to combat that confusion. They call it terminal agitation.
• Mixed messaging. One of the nurses refused to give my mum additional pain relief at my request, because she said my mum's knees would be up if she was in pain, but she was heavily sedated. My mum never moved once during her last week. She couldn't have moved her legs. All she could do was twitch her thumb (which she did once), facially wince, or do brief movements of her eyebrows. The same nurse also talked over my mum a few times and appeared to question whether my mum was really in pain, when my mum was still able to communicate.
My mum was someone who barely took painkillers when she was healthy. She had Pancreatic Cancer. I can state quite emphatically: she was in pain.
I still now (in 2024 - my mum passed away in November 2022 - highly dislike the nurse who added frustration and discomfort to my mum's last days. Her name began with an R.
• My mum had a sore on her bum that caused a lot of discomfort for her and I feel could've been treated sooner.
• After my mum's death (which I nearly missed by seconds) she had a sore on left ear, which both myself and it seems the staff hadn't noticed, and it must've been painful for her because she winced whenever her head was moved even a little (despite her heavy sedation).
• Some staff are friendly and compassionate, but there were a couple whose manner could have been warmer. They would enter my mum's room and not even acknowledge family, let alone speak or introduce themselves to my mum. My mum valued manners and a friendly manner a great deal. She had worked in social care herself and was always kind and compassionate to the people she cared for. Just because someone is dying they don't stop being a person. They still exist. They still need to be acknowledged.
• Some of the night staff are a little noisy (banging bins, laughing etc) but thankfully it didn't disturb my mum.
Some more good:
• The good staff who laugh with you, interact warmly with the patient and explain things to you
• Therapy treatments are available for patients and family
• You can bring your own pets
• Doctors constantly reasses medication and pain relief and will answer direct questions
• The food is good (although sometimes my mum asked for certain things and didn't get what she asked for, but this did improve later until she could no longer eat.) One of the catering staff (blonde hair in a ponytail) always went that extra mile and showed my mum so much compassion.
• Receptionists are super friendly and welcoming
• The Chaplain lady was very kind and compassionate also
• The fact family can stay the night with loved ones
Overall, Compton Care aided my beloved mum in her last days. It wasn't perfect and some things could be improved. However, my mum went as peacefully as is possible with a heinous disease like Pancreatic Cancer. She fought until her last breath.